Sunday, January 29, 2012

DIY Ombre Hair

Since having our little booger Bennett, my poor poor locks have been seriously neglected.  As much as I wish I could just go get them done whenever I want, I honestly hate giving up one of my 2 weekend days with Bennett sitting for hours on end in a salon.

If you know me at all, you'll know that I'm an incredibly impulsive person...A trait that sometimes gives Chad ulcers.  I see something I like and I want it...


Yesterday while Bennett was napping, I was browsing Pinterest and saw a hairstyle I just HAD to have.

Literally within 5 minutes I was walking to the store buying hair dye, calling my sister and best friend asking them if they thought I was crazy...a rhetorical question, mind you. They both assured me that hair was fixable and with that, I took the leap.

My natural hair color is a pretty dark blonde...a color I haven't seen since I was probably 15 years old.  I bought hair color that matched my roots (my natural color) and died my whole entire head.

I'm not gonna lie, I almost had a mini panic attack because the dye looked SOOOOOOO dark, but thankfully after washing and blow drying it out, I was back to my natural color of dark blonde.  

Let's hear it for saving myself the trouble of pesky roots for a while!

Next, I mixed some bleach and parted my hair down the middle, almost as if I were going to make pigtails.  I covered the bottom 4 inches of my hair in it and covered with foil for about 10 minutes.

After 10 minutes, I removed the foil and added bleach about another two inches above where the other bleach was and also added more to the ends.  (i.e. the tips essentially get bleached twice)

After I added the second round of bleach, I kind of eyeballed how long to keep it on.  Obviously the longer you keep the bleach, the lighter it will get.  I left it on for around 10 minutes and noticed the ends were almost white.

After a quick shampoo and conditioner, I let my hair air dry since I basically just died it 3 times in the past hour.

Once my hair was finally all dried, I took a curling iron to random pieces, and of course because this is me we're talking about, teased the crap out of it.


...I give you Ombre hair!

The ends are so much lighter than these photos do them justice and I've now become obsessed with the fact that not only was this SO incredibly easy, but also the amount of time and money this will be saving since I now can upkeep on my own!!


Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Mama Bear Baby Bear

Well, I'm sick.

...the story of our lives lately it seems.

I swear, now that you FINALLY aren't sick, of course mommy gets sick.  Blah, no fun.  I've been trying my best to keep my stuffy nose and cough at a distance, but Bennett, its just so hard considering how gosh darn cute you are.  You seem to have re-entered your snuggle stage lately, which your daddy and I both are L.O.V.I.N.G. - but I pray to God this pesky virus of mine stays out of your tiny system.

The other night you melted my heart kid...

I was lying in bed, feeling crummy as you sat and played with your toys next to me.  You began to fuss and lunge toward me with arms outstretched (a new habit you have picked up lately) and I attempted to snuggle with you, knowing that, like always, you probably wouldn't stand for it.  Miraculously, you snuggled up next to me and watched How I Met Your Mother, with your favorite blankie in tact for a good thirty minutes!  I almost didn't want to even breathe, in fear of you realizing that you actually are lying still for more than 5 seconds.  I even carefully text your Daddy to come look at this rare occurance.

...I swear on some level, you knew I wasn't feeling well.  You knew I needed a good snuggle from my baby bear.  Well kid, you were right.

Gosh I love you.

All my heart and soul,

Friday, January 20, 2012

Sweet Success!

Last Sunday, after Bennett's 6 month doctor visit, Chad and I decided to change up Benny's eating/sleeping schedule dropping him down a feeding and also dropping one of his naps.  Well with a little tweeking and figuring out what worked for both us and Bennett, I'm very happy to report that Bennett is such a champ and LOVES his new schedule.  He now is eating solids twice a day and also getting the recommended intake of milk.

Since we've dropped one of his feedings which in tune dropped one of his naps (eat, play, know), Bennett has been knocking out at 7:00 pm and sleeping until 6:00 am for the past 5 days!!! are we so lucky??
I could cry he is so good!

We have a jammed pack weekend ahead of us, with lots of family and fun events to partake in...but until then, here's some photos from our week with our little owl Bennett.

Fancy for Church.

New kicks...(please, no cankle comments.  Thank you)


Sippy cup??...yes please!

Momma Anaya

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Today's Musings...

“When the heart speaks, the mind finds it indecent to object.”
- Milan Kundera The Unbearable Lightness of Being

...friends, follow your heart.

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Six. Friggen. Months.

On Friday, our sweet Bennett boy turned 6 months old.  We had his well check Saturday morning and everything turned out just fine.  His weight has finally caught up and he's finally tip toeing close to the 45th percentile at 17lbs 2oz.  Let's hear it for solid foods!

His height is continuing to sky rocket measuring at 26 inches...another whole inch since his last well check.  Dang kid, no wonder you're blowing through string bean you.  And he's still got mommy's tiny head measuring in the 25th percentile. 

...Sorry bud.

Tomorrow were going to try and change up Benny's feeding schedule from 5 feedings dropping it down to 4.  We hope introducing another meal of solids will help keep his belly full long I said, we hope. Also, hopefully this will in tune, drop one of Bennett's 4 naps down to 3 which, if we're lucky, means bed from 7:00 pm - 6:00 am instead of 5:00 am.

...a Mommy can dream right?

Wish us luck!

-The Anaya's

Friday, January 13, 2012

A Little Faith...

"Be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

Some discerning thoughts have been weighing on my heart and mind lately.  It must be motherhood or more importantly, the speedy shift that comes along with caring for a little one, but I can't help but not just allow this current introspection to circulate.

I've become very aware, more recently than ever, of the declining faith among humanity.  Perhaps its the grueling climb out of the depths of the recession, or honestly, I really don't know...but I'm more aware now than ever of the inherent negativity and lack of positive conviction out there.

Chad and my Mom will both tell you, I have a very sensitive soul for the homeless.  I can't tell you what sparked it, or why I feel so willing but I just cannot imagine living my life without SOMETHING...ANYTHING. 

As I have mentioned, both Chad and I come from very large, loving families...but I'm also not naive to the fact that not everyone is as blessed as we are. 

Not everyone has help.
Not everyone has caring or concerned loved ones...which just BLOWS my mind.

While I was living in Santa Clarita, there was a homeless man that was pretty well known in the area (well known for being homeless I mean).  He used to come into Black Angus where I worked as a hostess and would ask if he could eat cherries and oranges from the bar garnish area. 

My heart would break everytime.

As I got older, I would still see the same homeless man, roaming around Valencia.  I always made sure if I had any food on me, to hand it over to him.  He was always incredibly grateful and never once asked for money or a handout. 

He was simply surviving. 
With nothing.

I think, now more than ever, my concern for others (and yes, Bennett has a lot to do with this) is incredibly heightened.  I want pure happiness to oscillate through my veins and I want that happiness to become contagious among others. 

Once I had Bennett, an incredible shift happened.  I used to dwell on the negative and always played the "what if" game.  Now...not so much.  I'm grateful for everything I have, and think of all the positive aspects of my life, rather than dewlling on my wants and desires.  Because, truly if we are living and breathing and making it day after day...we really are so lucky.

It's no secret that as a family, we try to maintain a strong faith and relationship with God.  We have beliefs, values, and hold ourselves accountable to preserve this time we have together.  I think alot of our positivity and prosperity comes from the lessons learned as we work out our faith.  It's ever-changing and endlessly enlightening.  We crave it and feel its inherent electricity.

I think if everyone, regardless of their religion, beliefs, and morals focused more on living in the moment and trusting in themselves...we'd be much better off.  It's so easy to mock and question those that trust in a higher power, regardless of what or whom that higher power may be...but would you mock a child for believing in Santa or the Toothfairy??

Why can't we simply mirror the hope and promise of a child?  Why can't we have faith in something much greater than ourselves?

It's so easy to question or point out all the negatives.  I myself am guilty of blaming God for something as petty as stubbing my toe...but WHY?!  Because, when something negative happens, it's hard for us, as humans, to take responsibility for it. 

We have no problem blaming a higher power among such instances...

So I ask you, instead of complaining...why not appreciate?
Instead of buy something for yourself, why not buy a homeless person lunch?
Instead of dwelling on the negative, why not seek the positive?

Bennett has taught me limitless lessons on positivity:
1. He's been sick for what seems like his WHOLE life, but I know that it will only make him stronger in the long run. 
2. I gripe daily about being away from him and having to work, but how selfish would I be if I chose to stay home and allow our family to scrape by and struggle?
3.  I worry that Bennett will not get the care or concern he needs, but I have to trust that other people can love him just as well as I can.
...this list can go on and on but you get me.

so today...I'm thankful. 
Today, I'll be positive.
for all we are promised is Today.


P.S. words to live by from my favorite author:
This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to every one that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.” ― Walt Whitman

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Greetings from 6:30 am.


Happy Sunday!

...I just put Bennett down for his early morning nap and thought I'd take advantage of the caffeine swimming through my veins and catch up on all the adventures of the little Benski lately.

 As we are vastly approaching six months old, Bennett is becoming so incredibly...I don't know any easier way to put it...human.

He has a voice, emotions, wonders, you name it, and its all so incredible to watch unfold day in and day out.  Your sitting is becoming quite daring if I do say so myself, as just this morning I heard a nice little thud the moment I took my eyes off of you.  Bennett, you do this leg thing, where while you are sitting I think you want to practice some sort of circus balancing act and lean on one butt cheek almost like a car driving sideways on two'll balance for a moment, then it happens...the crash a burn.

At first of course, I'd get so worried and run to you, but now your excessive attempts have hindered my concern since you simply crash, then roll on your belly and continue playing. 

Thank you for the lesson in allowing you to experience and learn for yourself my love.

Yesterday you attended your first birthday party for your buddy Caleb...YAY!  I thought you'd do great at Gymboree since you spend a good 8 hours a day at a loud and crazy, baby filled day care, but again Bennett my heart, you are always keeping me on my toes.  Perhaps it was the amount of people, or perhaps it was because it was the end of the day nearing your bed time, but you just were not amused.  The bubbles made you mad and the parachute freaked you out.  Let's not discuss the horrible idea I had of letting you try out the slide.

Oh well, I guess you DO have your limits.  Or perhaps you're entering that stage of uncertainty and fear of the unknown...which are all just blunt reminders of how old and wise you are becoming.


Today we're celebrating your Daddy's birthday and thursday is your very own 1/2 birthday...can you believe it?...cos I sure can't.

(Can you guess who dressed him???...Twins)

xoxo my love,

Monday, January 2, 2012


Happy New Year!

I can't believe it's the new year.
I can't believe Bennett is almost 6 months old.
...and moreover I can't believe I'm a mom and Chad is a dad. this real life?

The past year has been nothing short of amazing.  We expected and welcomed our sweet little monkey boy Bennett into the world.  I wish there were words to convey the utter joy Bennett has brought to our lives.  He constantly teaches us passion, patience, and a love we never knew existed.

Chad and I also celebrated our one year wedding anniversary back in September. That in itself just blows my mind.  I feel like it was just yesterday that he asked me to be his wife, but I cannot be thankful enough for the man that God has chosen to experience this walk with.

Well you'd think attending a New Year's shindig with an almost 6 month old would be close to impossible, but with Bennett in hand, we had loads and loads of fun with some really great friends. Liz and Rich invited us over to their place and mentioned it was going to be a baby friendly gathering...we couldn't resist.

Bennett had his first sleepover and did such an amazing job. He was one of three sweet little babes along with Caleb (1) and Maddox (2 mo), so it was really fun to see all the different stages of the little guys.  Caleb was so cute with his drunk baby walking and stumbling and Maddox was so sweet still in his little snugly infant stage.  It really is so incredible to see how much they change in a matter of a year!

After we put the kiddos to sleep around 7:00 pm, Rich and Liz had such an amazing meal and spread for us.  I swear, those two NEVER disappoint.  Rich grilled burgers and hot dogs while the rest of us munched on yummy apps including chocolated covered peanut butter crackers care of Liz Millard herself.

After dinner and a few glasses of wine, us girls headed out back to enjoy the fire the boys made earlier in the night.  It really was utter bliss to sit and relax knowing the little babes were snoozing away cozy inside.

...sweet sweet silence.

We shortly headed indoors to watch the ball drop and play an intense game of Catch Phrase...thankfully Chad and I didn't fight (...something that ALWAYS happens during a good ol' game of Catch Phrase).  I literally was so proud of myself for not only staying up past midnight, but also for allowing myself to relax and have a good time with some great friends...something I've always had a hard time doing since Bennett has been born.

Let's hear it for peace of mind and good wine!

Millard's thank you for the wonderful get together...we cannot begin to tell you how much we adore and value you two.

Happy New Year!

-The Anaya's